This is Part 2 of this write-up. To fully understand and benefit from it, kindly read Part 1, which contains the important introduction and key definitions that will guide you through this material.
Now, let’s dive into Part 2.
21. Many good girls believe they still have plenty of time to get married.
Check out this very challenging and instructive Scripture:
Ephesians 5:16 – Make the most of every chance you get. These are desperate times! (MSG).
It is an illusion to believe that one has plenty of time as an adult to get married. The bad girls don’t have this mindset, and their desperation pays off.
22. Many good girls are waiting to be sure of getting married to good men.
Many good girls want to be very sure that the man asking for their hand in marriage is also a good man. This is not bad at all, but the bad girls, to a large extent, don’t really consider this factor in making marital choices. This makes them marry quicker and, to a large extent, separate or divorce earlier.
23. Many bad girls are more accommodating.
This is actually very correct. This quality draws men a lot to bad girls.
24. Many good girls are too selective.
In fact, it can very rightly be said that they are too selective. The bad girls, because of their extreme desperation, are mostly not very selective. Being maritally selective is not bad, but when it’s pushed too far, it turns into a disadvantage.
25. Many good girls are inaccessible.
This is a very serious minus to many good girls. The main challenge here is that many good girls, especially the born-again ladies, are abnormally over-occupied with church activities that they are very inaccessible to men maritally. Loving God and being committed to the work of God is good, but when it is not well balanced, a very dedicated Christian lady may not know that she is not maritally accessible and available. Most bad girls are always maritally available.
26. Many good girls are not approachable.
I have personally found out that men love ladies who make it easy for men to approach them. Being approachable does not mean being carnal. Even to be a good soul winner, one should be approachable. This is maritally a plus. Good girls should take note.
27. Many good girls are harsh.
I don’t really know why many good girls are not just harsh, but very harsh. This is a minus to them because this character is a serious turn-off to men.
28. Many good girls are not open; they behave as if they suspect almost everybody.
This is another character of many good girls that bothers me so much. I could even ask whether there is a connection between godliness and inability to be open. This makes a lady appear as if she suspects that any man that comes her way has something to hide.
29. They love to intimidate men with spirituality.
Spirituality is a great virtue, but when it is abnormally pushed to the extreme by good girls, men are seriously intimidated. For instance, there are good girls that during courtship, the only thing they want to do with their husbands-to-be is prayer and Bible study. It’s great to pray and study your Bible, but there are several other factors that lead to marital success. A balance is always encouraged.
30. Their parents over-shield them from men.
Yes, this is very correct. The parents of many good girls over-shield them from men, while the parents of many bad girls push them to men! It is absolutely inadvisable for parents to push their girls to men, but they should also not totally withdraw them from men. Advise and guide your girls, but don’t stop them completely from relating with men. Humans marry, not spirits!
31. Many of them are not open to love.
Many good girls carry themselves in a way that suggests that they have no business with marital love in any way. This is a serious minus. The bad girls are literally always open to love.
32. The bad girls are ready to dance to any music relationship-wise.
In the area of relationship, many bad girls are ready to do anything that men want from them. This makes it easy for them to marry very fast, but remaining in marriage is another thing entirely. Many bad girls rush out of marriage the same way they rush in.
33. Many good girls are not very lively.
This character is a total turn-off to most men. Indeed, many good girls are guilty of this, and it is not a positive marital virtue.
34. Many good girls are not very cheerful.
They behave as if spirituality is enhanced by frowning and being moody!
35. The pastors of many good girls act as their husbands.
Although in most cases sexual intimacy does not happen between them, over-closeness is not helping these ladies maritally. With due respect, I appeal to pastors who conduct themselves this way to please allow these ladies to be findable by men who are looking for life partners.
36. Many good girls are caged by their church doctrines.
There are lots of church doctrines that hinder many good girls from getting married. For instance, there are churches where ladies are not allowed to dress well. To them, this is a sign of worldliness, and this puts a serious marital limitation on their ladies.
37. Many bad girls take time to study what men want and pattern themselves in that direction.
On the other hand, this does not concern many good girls. This is in fact one of the reasons why many bad girls marry more than good girls.
38. Many good girls are only useful in church.
It is very sad that the way many good girls conduct themselves shows that they are only useful in church, that’s all. Unfortunately, it takes more than church commitments to succeed in marriage. Good girls should strike a balance here.
39. Many good girls are very aggressive.
To be very aggressive means to behave in a forceful, intense, or confrontational way, often without regard for others’ feelings, boundaries, or well-being. This is a major marital minus.
40. Many good girls lack spiritual self-control, especially during church services.
They fall and scatter themselves and things during every power prayer. Brothers think such ladies are possessed by demons!
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